i fail to understand...

I just don't get it...or is it just me?
[sigma or the evening falls, which has fallen into the pit]

Priorities set in life in different people has different levels or something. Everyone has different priorities, everyone likes to do things differently. But we all are set into one main direction and everyone should be on that same line so that we can coordinate things together.

For me, my priorities are set as per...
[since 2001 till currently] - do notice that each and everyone's priorities change either annually or per as when needed.

1. God & Family
2. Close friends
3. Friends
4. Work

Some might even ask, why not work second or sumthing in the middle?
As you all might know, it's always been

"As a professional, work comes first - relationship second"
And on top of that i might add "but friend goes above all". From this phrase here you could actually put it in so many different context but still prior to "above all" my number 1 stand still stays at the same place, unmoved and untouch.

A good example of what i'm trying to say would be:

On my everyday kind of schedule, hectic with work / college and assignments that's piling up...of course everyday is a different day and gym time is different and there's time to have dinner / lunch. College has always been a priority and ensuring that i have enough time to finish my college assignments is one of my top priorities. But of course, having to pay for the gym fees,i feel so guilty if i don't go for gym. Yea...one hour per day at the gym makes a bit of a difference in your body but missing it would be a terrible loss for your pre-planned gym workout condition.

Per usual, i go to the gym always after college just right before the jam starts in KL. Sometimes i might even go to the gym in the afternoon or late in the evening.

The way i manage my time is that, well for me...if there's something that comes up last minute such as my friends asking me out for dinner or just even hangout i will take that opportunity (although i know i can still meet up with them another time) i still would sacrifice that time for my gym so that i can go out with my friends.

I really see and look at my friends as if they are as precious as gold bars. Appreciating your friend / friends = true friendship.

Yes, some of you might not see the point of this or even the greater point that lies beneath it. I will try to accomodate each and every friend of mine, whether or not its a last minute thing or an advance schedule. Because i know i will be able to do whatever i want the next day or in the days to come but as much as friends "stay with you forever" you might never know when they leave or come. Take the opportunity to get to know your friend, take the opportunity to say how much you love your special someone because in life - many of us don't spend as much time saying how much you love that special someone or how much you love your friend. It doesn't take much...just a small effort to get that mouth open.

For the time that i've been at Sweat Club MidValley Megamall, there's been a lot of times that i've sacrificed my gym time for my friends. Always get last minute calls "hey shaz, dude...let's go out tonight", and yes i still entertain those calls. Not that i want to be so posh or what and say "hmm..i'll think about it / i'll let you know soon". Yes some people need to think before they give the answer, something better might come up why not wait for that better shit to happen than going out with this lowlife" hmm..that might not have been in your mind but perhaps this would "arghh...malas la...should have asked me way earlier like 2 or 3 days earlier so i can set my plans for the week". Well, you might never know if you even have 1 more day to live because its not you who sets your fate so for the time being, go on with your life, appreciate everything that you have, every friend that you have. Accomodate to each and everyone needs and every1 will get a piece of what they should really get from a real true friend.

And oh yea...there are times that you can say no to a friend, but always think what you are trying to say first and look at the consequences. Doing what you have to do, which one is more important?

Well, in this case, if you take what you have planned to do is more important and you say "sorry, another time" or "sorry la, i will see you soon / later"...saying sorry is one thing, but saying sorry one too many times is another.

Its just like saying sorry without you really mean it. Just like saying hey, "sorry". But then you would still carry on doing it all the time . But remember one thing, "sorry" is just a one time free pass...you can't just use it every single time you hit a problem.

Using this same word / excuse "sorry" alot of times, without YOU on the other hand to actually look into the matter / the problem personally sets a bad track on yourself. Why? Because you are just saying sorry using the same word on different actions all the time. But you are not doing anything to improve or do something about it so that you can improve. But seems like people don't like on improving and just like to keep it the same all throughout.

From this example here, you can see that some people just love saying sorry without truly meant what they say. Although some would really mean it but still it is not a way to improve your situation. Sometimes people think that what they are doing is correct, of course it is very hard to deny or self deniable. But still why say sorry if you tend to do it over n over again?

That's today's tutorial...why i'm talking about all of these you might possibly think its just a whole load of "JUNK".

Oh well, one of the MANY reasons would be...my birthday on the 23rd July 2001 (no im not self promoting here), birthdays has never been a "GREAT" thing or something that i look forward to in life. Nothing as big has ever happened to me. I am lucky to even celebrate it with some friends, but this particular year...none at all. Finished class at APIIT around 5pm, a few people knew that it was my bday and i had no plans at all, no party, no dinner no nothing. Went to midvalley but on the way made a few phone calls asking if there's anyone free (even until i finished my credits and even made calls from public phones using coins). Surprisingly on my big LIST of friends everyone kept on giving 101 different excuses. Sigh...i shall not even go into details.

Yes, celebrated my birthday all alone by myself. Had dinner alone...didn't have the mood for a fancy dinner as i was alone...had this chicken fried rice at the food court top floor MV. The thing is when i ask my friends to go out with me on that night i didnt tell them its my birthday (why tell them when its not important - they your friends should be able to go out with you anytime, that's what true friends are all about, being there for you when you need them and when you need them the most), so i ended up going all by myself. So yea...you shouldn't have to tell someone its your birthday just to get company.

So yea, what i'm trying to say is that...*from the point that i said "as a professional work comes first, relationship second - but friends goes above all but just before god & family" yes...* What i'm saying is that i'd do anything for my friends (as long as its legal and on the good side and doesn't offend anything that im doing or etc), i'd change my schedule and even have it jampacked so that i can entertain even 1 single friend.

Making my friends happy is very important, because when everyone makes each other happy this world would be a much better world.

posted by Shaz @ 12/07/2005 06:06:00 PM